It’s a pet please of mine.

A few nights ago, Cati and I were gabbing away while dining at one of our favorite places.  We were at Verjus in Maplewood, NJ.  It’s quite a gem of a restaurant.  I’ll share more about some of our favorite meals there in a future post, ok?  So, during the course of our conversation, Cati asked, “What’s the opposite of a pet peeve?”  I thought for a moment, and realized there isn’t one.  I guess that speaks to the fact that people prefer to complain than expound on what they like.  So we came up with a term that I’d like to introduce here– pet please.  Although the folks at the Oxford English Dictionary haven’t included epiphanoid yet, I’m sure the phone will ring any minute requesting that I allow its inclusion– yup, any minute now [crickets chirping].

Anyway, we got to talking (and I got to thinking) and here is how I might define/explain a pet please (playfully plagiarizing Wikipedia’s entry for pet peeve):

A pet please (or pet joy) is a minor treat that an individual identifies as particularly enjoyable to him or her, to a greater degree than others may find it.

So things that are generally recognized as enjoyable are out.  One wouldn’t say, “Winning the lottery is a pet please of mine”  just as one wouldn’t say “finding cockroaches in my sandwich is a pet peeve.”  The former is generally recognized as really great and latter as really awful by pretty much everyone (I reckon).  A pet please of yours has to be something that is either not generally liked, or goes unnoticed by others– but makes your day.

This all started when Cati was searching for the words to describe how much she particularly likes it when servers clear crumbs from the table between courses with their little scrapy-thingies [kindly excuse my ignorance of waiters’ tools-of-the-trade].  Welp, that’s a pet please.  I have pet pleases too.  I like it when lady-bartenders/waitresses call me by a term of endearment like “sweetie,” “sugar,” or “hun” (as in honey, not the Asian nomads).  Some people don’t like the instant familiarity, but I like the motherly tone it seems to give an otherwise impersonal interaction.  Hence, it’s a pet please of mine.

So, dear readers, Cati and I would love to know some of your pet pleases.  Kindly share in the comments to this post.

On a completely unrelated note, here are some things I have learned that might be of use to you:

– Happy wife, happy life.

– If you MUST break the law, don’t combine offenses.  That is to say– if you’re speeding, get off the cell phone.  If you’re carrying crack, don’t run stop signs, and these sorts of things.  I learned this watching Cops.  [And people say television is garbage, pffft.]

– Make a Brazilian friend and get invites to barbecues at his house.

Holy picanha, Batman:

South Americans sure can grill.

8 Responses to “It’s a pet please of mine.”

  1. llcwine says:

    1. seeing folks of all ages enjoying something I cooked.
    2. A baby/toddler laughing.
    3. sharing a beautiful day with friends, loved ones and a glass of wine

  2. Gina says:

    I always appreciate when drivers follow the “alternate feed” method when sitting in traffic. That is, when there is a line of traffic waiting to go one way and those drivers in the direct line alternately allow one car from another line waiting to get in the main line (e.g. leaving a parking lot after a big event or trying to get on to 787 from Swan Street).

  3. Lydia says:

    I like “pet please”. So much better to focus on the positives than griping about negatives. Surely makes life more pleasant! A pet please of mine is when my grandbabies spontaneously hug me–just melts my heart!

  4. LT says:

    Turning one of my peeves on its head–A pet please of mine is drivers using their blinkers before changing lanes or turning. Does that count, or is it too universal? According to wikipedia’s definition, a pet peeve doesn’t have to be unusual; it is sufficient that you find the peeve more annoying than most people do. So, I’m especially pleased when people use their blinkers.

  5. Gina says:

    I have another one:
    Having worked (and still working) in the service industry, a pet please of mine is when I’m trying to help a customer with an issue, and I look to another coworker for advice or suggestions–and that coworker simply and willingly takes over the task by saying, “I’ll handle it,” or “Don’t worry about it; I’ve got this one.” Particularly when I had no intention of passing it off on the person, but they can tell I am either lost or somewhat frustrated and know it will be an “easy” task for them. I find that in most work environments people rarely volunteer to handle a problem or concern, so when this happens I feel particularly pleased and appreciative.

  6. alex|dimitri says:

    LT-
    I think that’s a valid pet please only if you truly notice and are delighted when people use their turn signals. In my experiences, people using their indicators is so common that I only really notice when they don’t use them. But maybe for you, on CA highways, the use of directionals is truly a noteworthy delight.

  7. Kim says:

    I love it when I’m out and about with my 15-year-old son and he darts ahead of me to open a door for me or when he holds it open for someone else and they say ‘thank you’. Their thank you reinforces his gentleman-like behavior. I’m thinking this totally qualifies as a pet please.

  8. alex|dimitri says:

    Great example, Kim.